Name:Akinbowale •
Title: ADVANTAGE OF SINGLE LIFE •
Date posted: 08/28/08 11:28
Q: Please Read I corinthians &:32-35; Ephesians 5:16,;Colossians 3:12
Being unmarried has its own advantages. You can be more focused, being free form the cares and burdens of family life. This make it for the unmarried woman to pursue her spiritual goal and tract it down to fulfilment. The risk of being distracted is limited, while you wait for God (who is the founder of marriage) to lead you to your owm Adam/Eve or you wait in courtiship or going the process of partner selection, you shouldn't crowd your heart with thought abouts the creams of marriage. " he that believe will not make haste". Remember that the your patience with God will be tested at the same time time. Don't be eaten up by the cares of getting married, building up a peaceful home and raising Godly kids, Let your be centered oc aquisition and demonstration of spiritual riches.
For now is the easy time when you can put in maximum consecration and concentration, staking all pains to dig deep of the riches of God's grace, probe the depths of the mystery of God and lay strong foundation for the future mission. It is will of God for you to get married and surely, He will leads you to the bone of your bone and fless of your flesh. And once you get married,nothing remains the same. Therefore, the pre-marriage life should be spent to pursue spiritual attainments, acquire knowledge in divine matters and serve the Lord with zeal. !Corinthians 7:32-35
Remember also to flee the youthful lust that draw men unto perdition(1Corinthians 6:18)
God bless you.
A: "There are many women who are happy to be single because there are many women who are independent. The culture is changing," reports researcher Dr. Xenia Montenegro, who works for AARP Knowledge Management.
Her study found that single women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s are happier than their male counterparts of the same ages, citing personal freedom and independence as what they like most. "Generally, the men are the controlling people in the marriage, and the women are happy to be free of that. I think it's the women who suffer more from marriages," says Montenegro.
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Japanese women staying single by the droves
TOKYO (AP) _ No matter how independent, fashionable or popular she may be, Japan's unwed woman has long been the eternal loser - lonesome during the holidays, dreaming of the child she never had, dreading the inevitable question at family gatherings: "Aren't you married yet?''
But in unprecedented numbers, Japanese women are answering that question with a firm "No'' - and trying to console other women about how to deal with their plight.
Japanese men are also delaying marriage these days, but often they cite economic reasons: they have trouble finding a job that gives them the stability they need for married life, or they're more hesitant to assume the responsibilities of family.
Many Japanese women, however, see a single major reason for their growing distaste of marriage: men who expect their wives to cheerfully surrender their jobs or juggle a career while single-handedly serving their husbands and caring for the kids.
"It's not that we're set on being single. We're thirsting for a good marriage, but we can't find the right guy,'' Sakai, a single 38-year-old, said in a recent interview in Tokyo.
"Men haven't changed their old mind-set. Women have grown too powerful for them.''
The situation is a dramatic reversal of the strong tradition in Japan that praises early marriage and criticizes women who delay marriage as unattractive and selfish.
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More women in America are choosing to remain single.
According to a recent New York Times analysis of census data, there are more single women in America today than there are married women.
It doesn't seem like too many people are surprised.
Tamara Jackson has spent many years in front of a book, studying to become a radiologist, and she is now completing her residency at Vanderbilt University Hospital. Jackson is 33-years-old and single.
She said her career, and her training to become a doctor has been her priority. She said, "This training just happens to occur when women are traditionally getting married...and having kids
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Girls, stay single to stay sane
December 22, 2003
The key to happiness - and sanity - for women could be to spend the whole of their lives single, British research suggested today.
A survey of almost 4,500 men and women found that women who stayed single enjoyed much better mental health than those who had married or suffered a relationship split.
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Christianity has not been very supportive of women, historically speaking. Much of the time women have been denigrated and forced into a second-class status. This was true right from the earliest years of Christianity and has continued down through today.
The Holland Sentinel offers some quotes:
Clement of Alexandria (150?-215?): "Every woman should be filled with shame by the thought that she is a woman."
Tertullian (160?-220?): "Woman is a temple built over a sewer, the gateway to the devil. Woman, you are the devil's doorway. You led astray one whom the devil would not dare attack directly. It was your fault that the Son of God had to die; you should always go in mourning and rags."
Ambrose (339-97): "Adam was deceived by Eve, not Eve by Adam... it is right that he whom that woman induced to sin should assume the role of guide lest he fall again through feminine instability."
Augustine (354-430): "Woman was merely man's helpmate, a function which pertains to her alone. She is not the image of God but as far as man is concerned, he is by himself the image of God."
Pope Gregory I (540-604): "Woman is slow in understanding and her unstable and naive mind renders her by way of natural weakness to the necessity of a strong hand in her husband. Her 'use' is two fold; [carnal] sex and motherhood."
Thomas Aquinas (1225-74): "[Woman] was made only to assist with procreation."
John Knox (1513-72): "Woman was made for only one reason, to serve and obey man."
John Wesley (1703-91): "Wife: Be content to be insignificant. What loss would it be to God or man had you never been born."
Southern Baptist Convention (2000): "A wife should submit herself to the leadership of her husband. Leadership in the church should always be male."
Local church in Holland (2004): "More and more we see women being placed in the position of Elder or Pastor in churches. Is this a good thing? Well, if your goal is to undermine the authority of the Word of God, it's a good thing."
The position of women in Christianity is much better today than it was even just a few decades ago, never mind a few centuries ago, but it's interesting to note the degree to which many traditionalists continue to fight against treating women as if they were fully equal. They insist that women have a "different" role in life than men, conveniently ignoring the fact that this "different" role inevitably becomes a "lesser" role as soon as the cameras leave the press conference.
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Sassy and Staying Single to Stay Sane
Name:Sassy •
Date: 08/29/08 3:11
A: A few passages from the wonderful 1 Corinthians that are Anti-Women/sexist:
[but then, I believe the Bible was written much more by 'men with an agenda' than by God per se.]
The head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man.
For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, for as much as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.
Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
[because restricting/limiting God to being 'male' only, keeps women 'in their lowly place.' Which is the main reason why I reject monotheism.]
Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.
It is a shame for women to speak in the church.
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At least with some of the 'supposed' sayings of Jesus, mostly per the 'heretical' texts, women have it much better. For example, one thing that Jesus says:
"Whoever is inspired by the Spirit may speak - whether man or woman."
After all, it's Paul as well as other men 'of the cloth' who tell women to be silent and rattle off all the other sexist nonsense - but Jesus never does.
I also noticed, while skimming through 1 Corinthians, that when they list
those who saw the risen Christ first, they totally 'ignore' Mary Magdalene ! Don't even mention her; just write her out of the 'story'. That's how big of a 'threat' she was to those women-fearing-macho-dudes who wrote the NT - and later, she was 'turned into' a whore by the 'patriarchal propaganda' machine.
So it's sooo sweeet that Mary-Mariamene Magdalene is 'finally' these days being given -at least by some of us wiser ones- the high praise and honor and interest that she totally deserves, after all these centuries of abuse and lies and brainwashing. Well, 'heresy makes for progress'.
Some people like to remain stuck in the 'anti-humanity' past, and others prefer to keep going forward, progressing ... evolving towards enlightenment.
Name:e2eglobal8 •
Date: 08/29/08 21:46
A: single life is better than married life. This make it for the unmarried woman to pursue her spiritual goal and tract it down to fulfilment . And once you get married,nothing remains the same. Therefore, the pre-marriage life should be spent to pursue spiritual attainments, acquire knowledge in divine .Japanese men are also delaying marriage these days, but often they cite economic reasons: they have trouble finding a job that gives them the stability they need for married life. There are many women who are happy to be single because there are many women who are independent
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Name:Panluna •
Date: 08/30/08 17:51
A: I've had the advantage of being both single and married for over 30 years.Being single means freedom,independence and sometimes loneliness.Being married offers security,companionship ,respect and resposibility.I like going with the flow and living life to the fullest.
Name:Sassy •
Date: 08/30/08 19:38
A: "We are perhaps surprised to find that the metaphysics of Christianity and the metaphysics of pornography are the same...
...For all the old shapes of religious asceticism are echoed in obscenity. And every theme, every attitude, every shade of pornographic feeling has its origin in the church...
...But this is the nature of rebellion. For to run away from the enemy is to call upon oneself the fate of one day meeting that enemy in oneself...
And no form of culture seems so blind to its own nature as pornography. The pornographic fantasy has that shape of the mind familiar to us in the madman, and in the totally naive liar, who contradict their speech with their gestures, who speak at cross purposes to their intent, and yet who tell us, even in their lies, the truth about their secret thoughts...
So a veil is drawn over the real life of pornography. What advertises itself as nakedness is shrouded. What is called frankness is denial. What is called passion is the death of feeling. What is called desire is degradation... And what is called a transgression against the church fathers is finally loyalty. Just as Saint Jerome, in his attempt to flee from a womans' body, found the images of dancing girls intruding on his vision even when he lived alone in the desert of Chacis, so too, perdition, sin, and hell haunt the pornographer even in his most extreme acts of rebellion...
The monks who wrote the Malleus Maleficarum as the doctrinal justification for witch-burning clearly created their descriptions fo the ideas and acts of witches out of their own psyches, and afterward attributed these fantasies to their victims. In their minds, they as freely moved from victim to torturer as did de Sade in his rituals of cruelty.... the 'witch' never existed as the church saw her; rather, the Christian idea of the 'witch' was a shadow side of that religious mind...
That which above all gives us the key to the traditional shape of de Sade's rebellion is that he chose the same victim for his rage as had the church fathers through centuries of tradition. For the body of a woman is culture's time-honored and conventional victim... Like his fathers before him, he reduces a woman to an object. Like his fathers, he imagines she is more evil than men. Like the church fathers of the inquisition, he punishes her. And like these same fathers, he imagines himself as her victim.
In Totem and Taboo, Freud tells us that the knowledge we wish not to know is 'ejected from internal perception into the external world.' We deny a part of ourselves, and deny knowledge of this part, but just as we deny this, we see this knowledge outside us as part of the world. What we detach from ourselves is, in Freud's language, 'pushed onto someone else.'
Both the church and pornography have chosen the same victim on which to push this denied knowledge. In these twin cultures, a woman is a blank screen. The nature of her real being is erased, and she comes to stand for all that man would deny in himself... A woman's body evokes the self-knowledge a man tries to forget. And thus he dreads this body. But he does not understand this dread as belonging to himself, and a fear of what the female body calls up in him. Rather, he pretends to himself that she is evil. As Karen Horney says, 'everywhere, the man strives to rid himself of his dread of women by objectifying it.'
The pornographer, like the church father, hates and denies a part of himself. He rejects his knowledge of the physical world and of his own materiality. He rejects knowledge of his own body. But he cannot reject this knowledge entirely. It comes back to him through his own body: through desire. Just as he pushes away a part of himself, he desires it. What he hates and fears, what he would loathe, he desires. He is in a terrible conflect with himself. And instead he comes to imagine that he struggles with a woman. Onto her body he projects his fear and his desire. So the female body, like the whore of Babylon in church iconography, simultaneously lures the pornographer and incites his rage...."
from the book 'Pornography and Silence-Culture's Revenge Against Nature' by Susan Griffin
Name:Sassy •
Date: 08/31/08 0:27
A: Being married is no guarantee of not being lonely; for example, I've certainly met a number of 'sports widows' in my day, some of whom seemed not only lonely, but 'sexually frustrated' as well ... on ta other hand, and I've met singles who weren't lonely, as they had full social lives.
There's also no such thing as security, that's a myth, because everything is constantly changing/in motion. Just because one is married, is no guarantee of 'security' - a wife or husband dies, and there you are -alone again! And just because one is single, doesn't mean they can't also have
"respect and responsibility".
"I never married, because there was no need. I have three pets at home which answer the same purpose as a husband. I have a dog that growls every morning, a parrot that swears all afternoon, and a cat that comes home late every night."
Marie Corelli
"Bigamy is having one husband too many. Monogamy is the same."
Anon.
"My marriage didn't work out. I was a human being and he was a Klingon."
Carol Liefer
"When you see what some girls marry, you realize how much they must hate to work for a living."
Helen Rowland
"Before marriage, a man will lie awake thinking about something you said; after marriage, he'll fall asleep before you finish saying it."
Helen Rowland
"The authority of the church over marriage has always been especially prejudicial to woman; it is from teachings of the church, that in the family power over the wife is given to the husband. It is the church and not the state, to which the teaching of woman's inferiority is due: it is the church which primarily commanded the obedience of woman to man. It is the church which stamps with religious authority the political and domestic degradation of woman..."
Matilda Joslyn Gage
"....According to Church teaching, woman was an after-thought in the creation, the author of sin, being at once in collusion with Satan. Her sex was made a crime, marriage a condition of slavery, owing obedience; maternity a curse; and the true position of all womankind one of inferiority and subjection to all men; and the same ideas are echoed in our pulpits to-day."
Elizabeth Cady Stanton
Name:Judith •
Date: 08/31/08 6:44
A: Akinbowale, Sassy, Panluna, e2eglobal8
I have not read much on that subject, but there is a verse in the NT written or attributed to Paul . One of his decipels has and affair, and Pauls response is "Turn a mans flesh over to Satan, in order to save his soul."
I can say this though , after having spoken to former female friends and that is "Making love to some men, is like having a bad hair day." So there are married women, who never find fulfillment in a marriage.
Name:Panluna •
Date: 09/01/08 0:45
A: Well,Judith all we can do is make do with what we have.No one's perfect.
Name:Sassy •
Date: 09/02/08 21:07
A: Yes, nobody is perfect - perhaps that's why half of marriages end in divorce?! And there are just as many divorces amongst 'conservative Christians' as anyone else, be they atheist or whatever else, so religion is no guarantee that people will stay married. But hats off to ya' Panluna that your marriage has lasted so long!
Name:Judith •
Date: 09/04/08 4:06
A: Yes Sassy I agree, and Panluna congratulations on keeping your marriage together. I think divorces are way out of hand, to many do expect perfection, and what may be perfect for one is not for another.
As far as religions , I think they have had more to do with divorce than is accounted for. Two people with different belief systems often end up in trouble and all to often can not find common ground. The initial infatuation wares off.
